You have been a tremendous guide and support through not only the legal but also the emotional land mines of this divorce. You have brought kindness and humanity to one of the most difficult life challenges one could face. With the seeds of emotional resolution, I can now begin thinking about the work of healing my life.
I offer my sincere appreciation. You have assisted me and my partner through what seemed a crippling dispute—one which appeared certain for lengthy and costly litigation. Your approach was unique (in my experience) and helped me understand the emotional and financial consequences when I allow unconscious agendas to drive my decisions. I’d say you were both a remarkably “peaceful lawyer (your words)” and extremely “effective counsel (mine)”. My only regret is that I hadn’t come across you earlier. Ahh, so much unnecessary frustration and lost money. Next time!
Thank you. I have come away more alive with feelings and more authentic in each moment. I could never have imagined that I’d come through this.
Your philosophy meets my need for beauty and deep meaning. Thank you so much for the impact on my life.
I can’t thank you enough for the instrumental role you are playing in our lives. You have made this process so much easier and have helped open lines of communication that had been closed for many years. I can’t begin to tell you how much we both appreciate your generous contribution to our lives. What you are offering is an amazing and generous service which I hope others will benefit from as well.
I just wanted to thank you for the incredibly generous gift of your service. I don’t know how to explain how beneficial you are to this process for H and I. I offer this payment to you, though I do believe you deserve much more. The least I can do is try to offer what I can to others too and pass the gift along.
Thank you. It gives me such pleasure to tell so many others about you and you and your offerings.
I am so grateful that I am able to speak freely… thanks to your presence and inquiry. I truly feel like I’ve honored J and myself in this process.
I want to thank you – even though this isn’t the outcome I thought I initially wanted, I feel you’ve helped me understand what I truly did want. And I’m so much happier for it. People like you give me hope that there is kindness in the world. I’m so touched by your work and what you’ve offered us. As I consider my own future, I can see that one really can do amazing things for others.
Thank you for helping us. You have a very special gift for this line of work. You make what could be the world’s most painful situation somehow bearable. I know enough from talking to others who have gone through divorce that our situation is much healthier, and I know we have you to thank for much of the improvement in understanding between A and me. He really listens when we are with you and accepts things a million times better after hearing it through you. My heart still aches about the brokenness of our marriage, but I also feel so grateful that we found you. Best wishes to you and your beautiful family.
It’s so very comforting to know that you are there to help us when we get stuck. Thank you for the incredible work that you do!
I’d really like to take a moment to thank you for all you’ve done so far for my relationship with J. Although far from ‘healed’ or ‘healthy’ it feels like it is on the right track and I’m finally wanting to take that track. Thank you!
I am still amazed at our good fortune to have met you. I have come across all kinds of individuals in my 48 years of life, I am not the most trusting person. After talking to you and meeting you I knew that I had met a rare person. You have such passion for what you do, such compassion for others. I can never find the words to thank you or to let you know just how much you have touched my life. I am sorry Larry but I am afraid you are just stuck with me! I plan on keeping in touch with you and checking in and seeing how you are doing.
I just wanted to thank you again for being so patient and helpful this past year. I know we gave you a run for your money there for a while, and it can’t be easy to witness the dissolution of a marriage so intimately. Thank you for having the courage to do this kind of work and for taking the time to teach us how to communicate better and focus on what’s important. Yours is a special gift, and the fact that you give it so generously is nothing short of a miracle. I hope our paths will cross again.
Eighteen years of marriage and then the terrible pain! I never would have thought at that time I could be writing this letter but… I am so satisfied with your abilities as a thoughtful, caring person, bringing us to understanding each other. To this day, H still appreciates the road I took us down with Through Understanding. I am so grateful to you and this process. I will highly recommend this to anyone wanting a peaceful divorce. H and I are back to being good friends, once couldn’t be imagined. I am so glad.
L and I ended our marriage of 12 years. It is hard to believe sometimes. You were our attentive counselor and then mediator throughout this process – the 3 of us formed a team united in making sure all of our needs were met. I was amazed and inspired to see how much we learned from your role modeling. Today, I cannot think of you without feeling an enormous amount of gratefulness for your role in the peaceful and gentle parting of ways. The needs of our kids were the main focus through out this period, and from witnessing their easy transition, I believe we’ve done it! It’s been interesting making sure that people understand, even our friends and relatives, that we are still a family, just one in which mom and dad are divorced. There is no side taking now, no good and bad, simply a wanting to continue to be a family. I feel very encouraged that it worked! We’ll be together at Thanksgiving. Thank you so much.
In case I didn’t mention it, I very much appreciated your help yesterday. As I always do. I’m so often amazed at your ability to shift my own very edgy emotions toward empathy. Those two emotional states often seem to exist on opposite sides of a very tall wall. Your sessions are a great reminder that sometimes the only thing needed to get over that wall is a little more clarity.
Before we came to you I had read every word on your website. I read what your clients had said, and from that I had gained the smallest hope that we too would be able to find peace, but it was a tiny hope. Deep down I believed we would never actually made it through peacefully, if at all. Well, I want to let you know how it’s turned out. Two years after the divorce I want to let you know that we have both moved on, in peace and partnership in raising B. We have done it. We have done it. I cry when I write that.
I wanted to thank you for the work you did with us today. You were able to take what I had to say about the most painful experience of my life, wade through the tears and hurt, fear and anger, and relate my experience back to me in its truest most basic form. It was a beautiful and healing gift to me, and I felt heard and validated, for the first time. What a marvelous thing.
You ain’t no voodoo lawyer! Why do I say that? Because of the new-age tenor of your website. Despite a strong recommendation we almost didn’t come to you. But the mediation was actually really practical. You helped us heal but that wasn’t the focus. You helped us resolve real and important issues that needed resolution. Thank you.
You are a featherbed in hell. Thank you
I’ll always remember such a difficult time in my life with fondness because of the process you offered us. Thank you, thank you.
I just want to thank you for today. Your equanimity and reassurance helped us deal with what could have turned ugly–fast. I’ve said before, I think you’re very skilled, and more so after today. Thank you.
I am at peace. I have learned so much about myself in this process of mediation, identifying my core needs, advocating for those needs, noticing my innermost motivations, listening generously to J. A deep bow of gratitude…
We would not be in this peaceful state if you were not involved……to say thanks may seem like just saying thanks….but it is a blessing of appreciation.